A Day in the Life of a Dyer-Fanatic
Happy Birthday, Dr. Wayne Dyer
(May 10, 1940-August 29, 2015)
When thinking of people who have changed the world, who have spoken and written words that leave an unquestionable mark on humanity, Dr. Wayne Dyer’s name comes to mind. Wayne is the celebrated author of 30 renowned books, a self-development icon and teacher, is a moving, core-shaking public speaker, holds his doctorate in Educational Counseling from Wayne State University, and was an associate professor at St. John’s University in New York. (hayhouse.com). But more than this, Dr. Dyer was a luminary who advocated a progressive, dharmic living and an ego-free way of life that rests on philosophies of ancient text and strong biblical reference. He offered the world a contemporary, profound way of living based on ancient text that has been in large part, glossed over with neglect. We are in a position to live a meaningful, intentional and reverent life and Dr. Wayne Dyer has taught us not only how to recognize that within ourselves but how to execute it with such ease and beauty. His legacy leaves an imprint on this world.
I write about Dr. Dyer in the past tense, as on August 29th, 2015, he passed away. It is with a bittersweet tone that I give thanks to Dyer’s legacy and all of the lessons that he has humbly taught us.
- The Power of I AM. Dr Dyer taught us in his book Wishes Fulfilled that when using “I AM” we are evoking the God-like, divine part of ourselves. Dyer demonstrates this with his exploration of the Bible and the multiple siting’s of God and his son, Jesus using the phrase “I AM”. The exploration also pulls a verse from Exodus where God tells Moses “I AM THAT I AM”. Dyer implores us to be aware of how we are using “I Am” in our daily lives, as this is essentially a statement that “asserts our divine nature”. Through the use of I AM, we are taught the phenomenon of choosing to assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled. He encourages us to experience the feelings of accomplishment before you even accomplish, to experience the feeling of success before you succeed and to use the power of ‘I Am” in conjunction with this to fulfill your wishes and enjoy your journey while doing so. Wayne teaches us by doing this; we are unknowlingly training our subconscious, “the subconscious never sleeps”. We are associating an affirmation with a positive feeling thus controlling the subconscious mind and making life an enjoyable journey all the while using our own personal divinity to drive the force.
- Let go of these false ideas:
– I am what I have.
– I am what I achieve.
– I am what people think of me.
– I am separate from everything I want in my life.
– I am separate from God.
Dr. Dyer teaches us that we are all part of what we came from. We came from an infinite, higher power, thus, this infinite power and purpose lives within us, whether we want to believe that or not. Through this connection, it is impossible to be disconnected or separate from God. We are created from divine spirit, that spark lives within us and it is our job to pay attention to it. When you start to associate who you are with materials, success and achievements you are discrediting and minimizing the infinite from whence you came. Wayne suggests that when ego takes over, you begin to attach your identity to things, and successes, the danger in this is that when you lose those things, you subsequently lose yourself.
- Radical Humility. “Live low, stay low, like the ocean..see everything in your life as miraculous” (PBS Audio- Change your Thoughts Change your Life).
- Show compassion. Dyer teaches us to see ourselves in everyone we encounter. He tells us to do this even with our enemies; our enemies only want the same thing that we want- to be at peace. Recognizing this connection can induce a sense of compassion for even those that you dislike. On the same token, Wayne promotes forgiveness, which we must utilize to live a healthy, peaceful life. Wayne regularly referenced Mark Twain and said that “forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heal that has crushed it”. I encourage you to take that with you throughout life and Dr. Dyer would agree.
- Enjoy the mystery of life. In Dr. Dyer’s interpretation of the first verse of the Tao Te Ching, he tells us to enjoy the mystery of life and to put a stop to always trying to control, fight, and interfere. “Let the world unfold without always attempting to figure it all out. Let relationships just be…Don’t try so hard to make something work- simply allow…when expectations are shattered, practice allowing that to be the way it is. Relax, let go, allow…” (Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life).
- Stop interfering in your own life. Dr. Dyer references our prenatal state, from conception to birth. He points out that in those 9 months we want for nothing, we are completely taken care of, whatever we need, we get through our Mother’s womb. We aren’t worried about anything, we just are. Dyer tells us to implement this philosophy into our adult lives, surrendering to the waves of happenstance, to the stresses of life. Let go, surrender to whatever is going to happen, stop interfering, stop fighting and just be.
- Everything has a dharma; Live by your dharma. Your dharma is your calling or your purpose in this life. Wayne encourages us to explore this, learn our dharma and live by it. Avoid living through the ego- comparing, competing, fighting and live through your dharmic nature. Explore what your true purpose is on this planet, live humbly and be open to what the universe sends your way.
- Be strong by bending; flexibility over rigidity.
- That is real which never changes. Dr. Dyer teaches us that what does not change, is real. Everything else is an illusion. For example, our bodies are constantly changing- the body we had when we were 5 years old does not exist anymore, thus the body is not real, it is merely an illusion. Our soul however, is unchanging and infinite; this part of us is indeed real. When looking at life with this perspective, the small, mundane conditions are ruled as unimportant; they are changing and are a facade. In this same arena, Dr. Dyer notes that the ego is also an illusion and that it “tells us we’re separate from what we want in life”.
- How may I serve, how may I be reverent? Lastly, Dr. Dyer urges us to make this question our top priority, he encourages us to surrender to something bigger than ourselves. When we start to live our lives with this question at the forefront of our intention, we reap benefits that we didn’t know existed, we start to see things that we didn’t know were there and we feel the strength of the divine, infinite power that lives within us. Dyer often liked to share a quote from the Poet Hafiz, “even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, you owe me, just think what a love like that can do, it lights up the world”.
Dr. Wayne Dyer was a visionary who taught us to see the world in a different way; he challenged us to live reverently, to think of other before ourselves, to just be, to surrender to the struggles of life. In incorporating Dr. Dyer’s teachings into our lives, we learn to understand that there are miracles all around us.
Let us be assured that Dr dyer welcomed death with willing and open arms. Let his teachings perpetuate a collective faith in his concept that this world is truly material and one day each of us will escape our illusory bodies and wander where Dr Wayne dyer now so joyfully journeys. Until that time comes, use dyers teachings to see past the illusions and recognize the miraculousness around you while you’re still here. And as Wayne promised himself years and years ago, make a promise to yourself to not “die with your music still in you”.
*Danielle shared this article as a contribution on YogiApproved.com